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What's your story?

Susan Grandfield • 6 August 2020
“The most telling choice of all may well be the story we live from and see ourselves participating in. It sets the context of our lives in a way that influences all our other decisions.” 



Whether we are aware of it or not we are all living our lives based on a story.

That story influences the way we see the world and our place within it.

For most of my 40+ years on this planet my story has been based around a plot to ensure my happiness, health and financial security. The subplots have included working hard to have a good quality of life, playing by the rules not , pissing people off and having a sense of needing to be in control of my life.

What is wrong with that you may ask?

It’s true, there are elements of that storyline which have served me well and have enabled me to have a wonderful life so far. However…..I have come to realise that the storyline I took on when I was younger is not the only one available. There are myriad of other storylines to choose from and the same is true for you.

So…..what is your story?

Many of us are living our lives based on a story we have unconsciously adopted. Often, we pick up our story from our family or the people we grew up around, sometimes we take on someone else’s story and for others it evolves through circumstances and life experiences. It really doesn’t matter where it came from the crucial point is whether we are aware of it and how we allow it to shape our lives.

Imagine how differently life will play out in these different scenarios:
  • seeing ourselves as the victim in the story versus someone who has the potential to create their future
  • having a sense of hope and the ability to overcome adversity versus a feeling of despair at the state of the world
  • living in fear and working hard to protect yourself from it versus actively seeking out the good and stepping fully into the experience of living
  • feeling empowered to make things better versus feeling powerless to affect change
  • rushing through our life feeling that there is so much to do versus slowing down to the speed of life and truly experiencing it.

Which of those sounds most like the story you are living by?

Remember, your story is a representation of how you see the world, the people you interact with and your place in all of that and so a helpful starting point is to check in and recognise the overall tone of your story. 

 Here are some words to try out and see which resonates:
  • hope
  • creativity
  • safety
  • individuality
  • community
  • change
  • stability
  • courage
  • fear
  • abundance
  • scarcity
  • or something else that resonates more with you.

Whatever the tone has been for your life so far you get to choose whether to keep living from that story or whether you want to embark on a new story, a new adventure.

If your story is serving you well great! If you have a sense that it is holding you back, limiting you, causing harm to you or others, too safe, not energising you, depleting your energy or not sustainable ……pause and open up to the fact that you can choose something new. You can do it right now. That is the beauty of this!  

The story isn’t real, it is just a story and you are the author and creator. You don’t need to adopt someone else’s story.  Write your own.

Here are some questions to get you started:

  • What is your heart’s deepest wish?  
  • What is so important to you it keeps showing up in your life in different ways?  
  • What fills your whole body with energy when you think about it?
  • What do you feel called to do?
  • What is a recurring theme in your thinking or your dreams?

Sit with those questions to see what emerges for you and if it would be helpful, get in touch with me and we can explore this together.

“Recognising that we can choose the story we live from can be liberating”

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